You can always get up after you fall, but remember, what has been said can never be unsaid. Especially cruel and hurtful remarks.
What makes this worse is that despite what people say, most people will not be able to truly forgive. If what you said or the interpretation of it (which will be affected by how much this person exercises husn Al- dhann as discussed in the previous post) caused some hurt, the negative feeling will inevitably have a neurochemical component developing a link between you and the said feeling, etching it into the person’s memory.
Further compounding this is that the hyper-reality, gossip and mindless consumption culture that we are a part of often makes people all the more primed to happily assume the worst possible meaning or intention behind your words. There is a multitude of reasons as to why but that is beyond this post. This Leaves even the most empathetic intellectual gymnast (lol) littering their speech with pre-emptive disclaimers and clarifications making for rather laughable but sometimes (sadly) necessary interactions.
The lesson for myself and all: 1) Guard your tongue and exercise discipline with regards to it – no, being angry does not justify expletives and neither does “once I get angry I lose control” – you are a human being.
2) – Look for the best intention rather than the most drama-causing worst one.
Aadil
